fixed, had to uninstall some vga drivers/ati drivers to get it to redetect
i just got a new gfx card /shrug/delete all drivers in device manager then turn off remove the card wait a few mins reinsert card switch on will then be asked for drivers ,just load them in from what ever you have them on (i find a disk is always better from a restart ) xp will always look for disk and should be ok